I suggest you take all prying, protective male eyes (read father, brother & boyfriend) away from this post.
And if you happen to like it enough, forward it to all the Bad Boys who have at certain points of time, touched our lives in manifold manifestations.
I remember, whenever I have dined out with boring folk, and am therefore wearing the charm of a beatific smile as armour, my eyes veer. They rest and travel to all tables around me. They often land for longer on a man (irrespective of his age) who's armed with a twinkle or glint in his eyes. Sometimes, the eyes take me in enough, and I rarely take the travel to the man's face. Very often, the eyes hold my attention long enough for my mind to wonder about the lady sitting next to this man. And then, the memories come flooding back.
I will skip the specifics of the 'bad boys' I have hung out with. Most of them have been friends from school and college. Some have been more than friends for fleeting periods of time.
But they have all provided me with interesting company, adrenaline rushes & memories of all kinds!
Usually, a bad boy has some clear signals- for dating, mating, Never to just stay friends. Usually, you will fall prey to one of them to some of their tactics. Don't try to hard to resist.
These are some identifiable characteristics.
1. Bad boys usually sweep you off your feet. Whether they woo you materialistically, with tons of flowers, choclates & hairy teddy bears, or with their words & actions, they willl fill the cockles of your heart with pleasure. And when they pour in the sensory kind, that's a moment you should savour without thinking about consequences.
2. Bad boys will start the conversation with a firm focus on you. They will gently get you to pour out your fears, worries, constant anxieties & insecurities. Once they know quirky details about you, they will very gently peddle their point of view. Often, this point of view will downplay the role of past men in your life, or even target the current one. See, they are hunters. So any tool is good for the prey. The prey is Never you. It's yet another booster doze to their egos.
3. At least one physical appearance about these men will simply knock the wind out of your lungs. Be it their eyes, their smile, the way they cock their head sideways while working you with that smile, or their slender appearances, or maybe the way they use their hands...they are perfectly male and therefore, totally take homeable in that frozen moment.
4. Often, if you ask a bad boy too many questions that probe into his insecurities or his failures, they will switch off. They won't answer. And just to make sure you don't try getting 'personal' again, they will tell you fictitious or semi fictitious tales about other women. There they use the ploy of inspiring or provoking jealousy and envy. And their success rate tends to be 100 percent. I'd say ,if you really really probe, those 'other women' might just turn out to be projections of their mind.
5. Bad Boys break your heart. So never never never fall in love with them. Or fall for them. Enjoy them, indulge them. They bring in the excitement & the thrill. Sometimes, they also provide you with very satisfactory conversation. But that's about it. They need to grow up before you hitch your hopes to them. (Now, why do I get the feeling that you are shaking your head resignedly, and thinking that here's one piece of advice I should take, but I just won't!)
6. Bad Boys think getting cocky is cool. Sometimes, they will drop weird gifts on you thinking of themselves as conquistadores and you, as conquests. (Like, net underwear with butterflies on strange spots). They also generally think very highly of themselves. Period. So deal with it.
7. If you must, compare your 'bad boy' interest to the plainer, more consistent man who can stand up to you. The Bad Boy will look into your eyes, charm you and seduce you with gentle gestures. But the plain man will look into your eyes after a tough day at work, or a taxing time at home. He will possibly, genuinely sympathise. And then, he will suggest a workable, practical way out.
8. Bad boys are self obsessed. Annoyingly so.
9. If you indeed have a chance to be with a bad boy, and your heart wills you to do so, (Irrespective of you being married, divorced, single, commited) Please Go Ahead. Do it. Let your hair down. Just that once, party wild, take a leap of faith and go off on the unplanned weekend.Live a little. Be fearless and be 'bad'.
10. And if you must fall in love forever with the bad sorts, know that you will might not have the dependable aspects of a marriage. But you sure will have loads of fun, all your life!
Blasphemous right? But honest.
Would love to hear your feedback.
And if you happen to like it enough, forward it to all the Bad Boys who have at certain points of time, touched our lives in manifold manifestations.
I remember, whenever I have dined out with boring folk, and am therefore wearing the charm of a beatific smile as armour, my eyes veer. They rest and travel to all tables around me. They often land for longer on a man (irrespective of his age) who's armed with a twinkle or glint in his eyes. Sometimes, the eyes take me in enough, and I rarely take the travel to the man's face. Very often, the eyes hold my attention long enough for my mind to wonder about the lady sitting next to this man. And then, the memories come flooding back.
I will skip the specifics of the 'bad boys' I have hung out with. Most of them have been friends from school and college. Some have been more than friends for fleeting periods of time.
But they have all provided me with interesting company, adrenaline rushes & memories of all kinds!
Usually, a bad boy has some clear signals- for dating, mating, Never to just stay friends. Usually, you will fall prey to one of them to some of their tactics. Don't try to hard to resist.
These are some identifiable characteristics.
1. Bad boys usually sweep you off your feet. Whether they woo you materialistically, with tons of flowers, choclates & hairy teddy bears, or with their words & actions, they willl fill the cockles of your heart with pleasure. And when they pour in the sensory kind, that's a moment you should savour without thinking about consequences.
2. Bad boys will start the conversation with a firm focus on you. They will gently get you to pour out your fears, worries, constant anxieties & insecurities. Once they know quirky details about you, they will very gently peddle their point of view. Often, this point of view will downplay the role of past men in your life, or even target the current one. See, they are hunters. So any tool is good for the prey. The prey is Never you. It's yet another booster doze to their egos.
3. At least one physical appearance about these men will simply knock the wind out of your lungs. Be it their eyes, their smile, the way they cock their head sideways while working you with that smile, or their slender appearances, or maybe the way they use their hands...they are perfectly male and therefore, totally take homeable in that frozen moment.
4. Often, if you ask a bad boy too many questions that probe into his insecurities or his failures, they will switch off. They won't answer. And just to make sure you don't try getting 'personal' again, they will tell you fictitious or semi fictitious tales about other women. There they use the ploy of inspiring or provoking jealousy and envy. And their success rate tends to be 100 percent. I'd say ,if you really really probe, those 'other women' might just turn out to be projections of their mind.
5. Bad Boys break your heart. So never never never fall in love with them. Or fall for them. Enjoy them, indulge them. They bring in the excitement & the thrill. Sometimes, they also provide you with very satisfactory conversation. But that's about it. They need to grow up before you hitch your hopes to them. (Now, why do I get the feeling that you are shaking your head resignedly, and thinking that here's one piece of advice I should take, but I just won't!)
6. Bad Boys think getting cocky is cool. Sometimes, they will drop weird gifts on you thinking of themselves as conquistadores and you, as conquests. (Like, net underwear with butterflies on strange spots). They also generally think very highly of themselves. Period. So deal with it.
7. If you must, compare your 'bad boy' interest to the plainer, more consistent man who can stand up to you. The Bad Boy will look into your eyes, charm you and seduce you with gentle gestures. But the plain man will look into your eyes after a tough day at work, or a taxing time at home. He will possibly, genuinely sympathise. And then, he will suggest a workable, practical way out.
8. Bad boys are self obsessed. Annoyingly so.
9. If you indeed have a chance to be with a bad boy, and your heart wills you to do so, (Irrespective of you being married, divorced, single, commited) Please Go Ahead. Do it. Let your hair down. Just that once, party wild, take a leap of faith and go off on the unplanned weekend.Live a little. Be fearless and be 'bad'.
10. And if you must fall in love forever with the bad sorts, know that you will might not have the dependable aspects of a marriage. But you sure will have loads of fun, all your life!
Blasphemous right? But honest.
Would love to hear your feedback.
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